BBC-Proof that Love at first Sight Exists: A ramblers Point of View.

I read this BBC NEWS titled- Proof that Love at first Sight Exists . Well as usual I got my own point of view.


   Do you believe in love at first sight? Personally, I don’t. I am not trying to say it can't happen, It could to some people but in my opinion it shouldn't happen. I wouldn't want anyone loving someone that they really didn't know, only to get their heart broken when it doesn’t work out or even more worst than just their heart being broken. I agree there can be a special attraction at first. I think people confuse that chemical attraction we feel when we first meet someone we are super attracted to as love. This doesn't mean that it cannot turn into love. I just believe that love is something that has to be built on.


   First of all, I don't think you can love somebody by just glancing at them. That’s me being practical and true.  For me, I believe to truly love someone you need to know them as a person. What they like, dislike, personality, what makes them smile or sad. You also have to like them for the little things they do, such as their habits. How can you tell all these things by looking at a person, I truly don’t get. Even if you stare at them for hours or stare deep into their gorgeous eyes for a long time, you still can’t know them that way.


  From my opinion, Love is not based on looks or what is on the outside. I absolutely believe that "Love is blind" because you need to know someone before you can even come close to loving them. What about blind people? They can't see people, so they have to get to know someone before they love them right? Because I totally think love is about getting to know the good and bad things and still liking them for those things. You simply can't judge a book by its cover. What if you love them when you first see them, then they turn into total.... jerks?  If just seeing someone instantly causes you to desire "a relationship with that person then you're probably hyper-sensitized and predisposed to feeling that way but to me I can’t say its love. Love has to be integrative and active; it's not only an emotion or thought, but it is a behavior with multiple domains (physical, emotional, cognitive, spiritual, etc.) interacting with each other. Something as simple as "first sight" can't explain something as complex as “Love.


  I feel that you can meet someone that you aren't attracted to but as you get to know their personality. It could be the way they make you laugh or laugh at you. Then you become friends and develop a relationship and all of a sudden they seem cuter to your eyes. Just because you like them as a person, their appearance improves. What if your one truelove or soul mate is not your type and you don't bother to look at them? Not so cool right?


  There are many more reasons why I don't believe in love at first sight, but I believe that two people can connect a few moments after meeting each other.  Lust at first sight.Yeah that definitely happens.  For some the equation is like this-
Lust =/= love.
Like =/= love.
Chemistry =/= love.
Attraction =/= love.
Intuition =/= love.

Don't cheapen the word "love" to every single reaction your body experiences.  It's a beautiful, deep feeling, sometimes heart-wrenching and it takes time to grow. I am sure there are a lot of people who believe they fell in love when they first saw someone. Best wishes to them :) .

Random Ramblings

   Yeah, it's Friday and I am happy about that I can have the whole weekend off without worrying about school or patients. Don't get me wrong I like what I do but I hate being a student, but then who doesn't? Sometimes it definitely feels unbearable but every time I remember graduation is a few months away, I smile. :) Ok enough of boring school stuff.
   I've come to realize that I'm never ever going to adapt to cold. I mean never. My friend said if hell was cold it would be like Ternopil (it was -15 on that day). I totally agree with her, it has becoming so cold that my house can be compared to a fridge :( ....Times like this make me crave for home)...'home sweet home'.  So I've been pretty lazy lately, doing only video tags, well since a got nothing to do today I decided to just write a short update about what has been happening to and around me. 
                                                             House of Parliament

   Everything that happens in my life to me is a major thing so no matter how little people see it, for me those moments just count. I got back from England a few weeks ago, it was the best two weeks vacation ever. Mainly because I saw my family but also because I was able to see new things and experience a whole new country. I find the people very friendly and calm compared to here too. 
                                                              Buckingham Palace
  My cousins were able to take me around for a while before they went back to school and then I had to go out on my own afterwards. It wasn't easy :) I kinda got lost for like 3hrs...hehehe. Silly me. I have a few pictures though, I got so caught up in the moments that I forgot to take pictures of myself :( .  
London Eye
                                               
 I had a fabulous time there. England will be seeing more of me in a few months.

                                             

                                             
   Just a few days ago I did my Nigerian tag and there was this question -what is the most ridiculous question have you been asked about your culture? Well that ridiculous question for me came today when my landlords friend asked If I had an Elephant's trunk to sell to him 0_0 ...I was speechless...I mean Speech...LESS.. 
                                                                               Big Ben
Anyways, not to write too much. I will stop here for now. I will hopefully write again soon.

XO

Dekky.

Poetic Rambling: Free Verse


I really like you and you like me too
There's something about you that makes you different
You're nice, kind, sweet and you make me laugh
I think about you, before I go to sleep
Whenever I think about you it makes me smile.

It's been a few weeks since I've seen you
And I miss you a lot. I want to see you
So much has happened since,
The last time we saw each other,
We've both found out we liked each other

When I talk to you, I get these butterflies
Butterflies in my tummy and it's not funny
I can't help it, I feel so different now.
It's not a bad feeling, it's a good one
I don't want to lose you now

I haven't ever felt this way before
This feeling is so new to me.
But I like this feeling,
Sometimes it doesn't feel real.
But then I talk to you and I know it is

I never thought you would like me back,
But there was always this hope I had.
Then my dream came true, you liked me back.
I don't want to get hurt though,
And I am scared that maybe I will.

But I still have these feelings for you,
I don't know if anything will change that.
I don't want to expect anything
And then be disappointed in the end
But maybe something will happen with us

Is it too early to fall for you?
If I fall for you, would you catch me?
Because I don't want to fall for you
And lose everything because you didn't catch me

But I like you now and you like me...
And maybe that's the way it's meant to be
"I like you" is never too early to say
But you never know what can happen. 

Love and Relationships: A Ramblers point of view.

If someone wants you, nothing can keep them away.  If they don't want you, nothing can make them stay either.  So stop making excuses for a man/woman and his/her behavior. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.  Trying to change yourselves for a relationship that's not meant to be will only end up hurting you, the truth is never live your life for anyone before you find what makes you truly happy. Slower is better. .

If a relationship ended once because your partner was not treating you as you deserve then “heck no, you can't be in it again." I’m not saying don’t be friends with an ex who didn't treat you well,  because I believe that when you hold resentment towards another person, you are bound to that person by an emotional link that is stronger than steel. Forgiveness is the only way to dissolve that link and get free. I'm a big advocate for forgiveness. All I’m saying is-don't settle for them because of that. If you feel like he/she is stringing you along, then they probably are.  Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things were not better; in the long run the only person you can control in a relationship is you. 


If something bothers you in your relationship, speak up.  As much as you can’t change anyone’s behavior forcefully, always be open in any relationship you find yourself. Always keep in mind that change comes from within and love is all about compromise, but you shouldn’t be the one doing all the bending because compromise is a two-way street. .  Enough of letting a relationship define who you are, but rather you and your partner should give a meaning to the special ties you share. Never ever make the mistake of borrowing or loving someone else's partner because if they cheated with you, they can definitely cheat on you. 


One thing I’ve learnt from experience is that you need time to heal between relationships; there is nothing cute about baggage. Deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship; no one wants to love someone who is still stuck on someone else. Yes, absolutely no one. From my own point of view you should never look for someone to COMPLETE you. Hey before you get me wrong, what I mean is this- relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals and I would rather have someone complementary than supplementary.  But what do I know I’m not a love guru, I’m just another girl sharing her opinion.

XO
Dekky



Nigerian Tag

So this is my Nigerian Tag, the questions are not much so it's kinda short :).  I have to do away with the word 'basically' ...I just realized that I keep saying it for no reason at all 0_0..
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I was asked to do this 21 Questions tag, so here it it . :)
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The questions:
1. What's your favourite ice cream?
2. Are you a morning person?
3. Are you athletic?
4. Who was your first love?
5. What scares you?
6. Have you ever been arrested?
7. What's your favourite colour?
8. What's your favourite candy/sweet?
9. Do you collect anything?
10. What year are you in school?
11. Do you have any pets?
12. Have you ever witnessed death?
13. Have you given to charity?
14. Would you rather call or text?
15. What's your favourite animal?
16. Would you rather be cheated on or cheated with?
17. Do you have any role models?
18. What TV shows do you watch?
19. Do you like to read?
20. What was the last movie you watched in theatres/the cinema?
21. What's your favourite Disney film?

About me 'Tag'

Today I'll do the tag where I answer questions about myself. I thought it would be a nice idea to do this as well so you guys can know a little bit more about me! I think the more personal you get with your readers, the better :)



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Excerpt

This is an excerpt from a story I'm writing.... :) This is an Unedited and Unfinished Manuscript, so constructive criticism will be appreciated...Enjoy!!



                                             Mad Dance of Sane Men
  It is true that those who dance are thought mad by those who cannot hear the music. This is a story of Dave, John and Anita and how their fate tells us that life is more than what we can see. So many things have left me untouched but this is a twist in time.

PROLOGUE

Who would have thought that a walk on a chilly Friday evening would change her life, not even a soothsayer at this point could outlook the fate in front of her.

She loves walking on the lonely street of Manhattan. Feeling the breeze blow against her face as she searched the solitude within, this was something she did every day. Rex was busy wagging his tail in a happy mood as he looked for a place to do his business. Not that she cared though. It was indeed a beautiful evening, but her heart had its own gloom.

She stared down at her left hands half wishing the shinning Diamond wasn't looking back at her, but there it was hanging beautifully on her third finger.

"Why doesn't it feel right" she muttered. That caught Rex’s attention and he beautifully ran to her as if to comfort her. That brought a chuckle to her throat.

Facing the spaniel she said to him "I really wanted to settle down you know, finally I get what I want but my world still seems to be falling apart”. One would have thought the puppy could hear her.

John had proposed to her yesterday, she had been looking forward to this day but she was far from excited now. She couldn't put up with this. She knew she had always been an accessory but it doesn't just feel right anymore. She needs a safe family. Now she feels like her soul truly connects with Dave instead, but now when she needs him so much he is nowhere to be found.
“What was she expecting him to do” she sighed. Dave had loved her whole heartedly, but all she wanted was just friendship.
 “I wish I just knew where to find you, Dave”

Rex whined at her looking like all he wanted her to know is that everything is going to be fine. At-least she wished.

She was just about to take him under the shade were they always spent time playing when she heard the horns. It was too late. She blacked out.

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"She is awake" a fat woman in an over-sized white gown shouted.

She turned drowsily as she felt a sharp pain to her spine "Where am I”?

A young woman with a stethoscope walked gracefully into the room.

"I am glad you are awake Ms.... it has been 3days" She said with sincerity.

What the heck are they talking about? Her heart screamed for an explanation.

"She looks blank" the fat woman whispered to the younger one annoyingly.

The younger woman who she perceived to be a doctor turned to her "Ms, you have been in a coma for a while now, thank goodness you are awake now”.

Struggling to get up she replied "Ok, but can you quit calling me Ms...That isn't my name you know”.

'We would have known that if we had your records, but you were brought it by some Good Samaritan who knows nothing about you’.

"My name is....." She thought longer than usual. Another trial "My name is.......”. All of a sudden it dawned on her that she doesn't even know who she was let alone where she lived. This wasn't happening.

The fat woman who she finally concluded was an auxiliary nurse went to a corner with the young Doctor. Their words were not audible enough for her. They turned back to her and this time around the Doctor had sadness to her face.
"I am afraid you might be having Amnesia".

"Amne-What..? "

"It is a state of ...."

Interrupting abruptly "I know the meaning. No ....No way. I know who I am."

Doctor replied hastily “Not that it has been confirmed though, we have to do some test to be sure”.

Her mind was somewhere else. When did all this happen? She tried remembering anything before the accident. Nothing came. She shifted uncomfortably, only then did she see the sparkling stone calling for her attention. At that moment she knew one thing for sure. She did not like the ring and she didn't like her past life.

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CHAPTER 1
He was so tired.
For how long is this going to continue? John thought as he walked to his room rubbing his chin.
Everywhere was in darkness and he could hear the squeak of his shoes on the ground. He looked around hoping to find someone around, none.
‘How did all this happen?’ He said aloud. I came out first class in school, nice Job but I feel so miserable.
A frown marred his eyebrow. ‘I have to do something, something spontaneous. Turning he strode across the bed to get a good night rest.
Sleep. He really didn’t feel like sleeping. He was looking forward to what tomorrow will bring.
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‘Thanks, Annie; I don’t know what I will do without you.’ He smiled down at her with eyes glowing like a boy opening his Christmas gift.
Anita’s eyes lowered to hide the pain in her eyes. She had been hoping that Dave wouldn’t fall in love with her, but one glance at him she knew how wrong she was. Hiding her pain beneath a bright smile, she took his hands into hers.
Hey, you deserve this, Dave- you are such a good friend.
‘But was he good for her’.  Anita pondered. She hated herself when she has one of these disloyal thoughts.
‘I have to go Annie’. Dave said hurriedly, carrying his briefcase.
‘Yes, we will see later tonight right?’ She dispelled the thoughts in her head. She was going to do it tonight. She was going to break his heart, she never really meant for this to happen. The friendship was going so well and she thought she had it under control.
‘Bye’ He said kissing her on the cheek.
Her mind strayed as she bolted the lock. ‘I am not ready for commitment, I don’t even know what love is’.
She stepped into the tub and buried herself beneath the soothing warm water.’ I sure need this Vacation’ she muttered allowing her mind go blank.





She was late for her flight, she had spent so much time daydreaming in the bathroom that she lost track of time. Traffic was very heavy now and airport is just few yards away but there was no way she would leave her car along the way.  She broke into relief as the cars in front of her moved away; she sped along the road, checking her time every thirty seconds.

 She made it right on time. Once inside the plane she searched for her seat, it was by the window like she asked. Slipping through to her seat, she peered out the windows. She could see part of the cabin crew down below the right wing of the plane laughing about something. This brought lots of thoughts to her head. Was she unhappy? Her life was not going as she planned.
Five years ago, on her twenty first birthday she had been pretty sure she will be married and happy by now but here she is , lonely and sad.

‘Good thoughts! Good thoughts’ she muttered silently

‘Excuse me, where you talking to me’ It was a man’s voice

Annie was so deep in her thoughts that she hadn’t even noticed that the seat beside her was now filled.

She replied hastily ‘No No I was just doing some mumblings to myself.

‘Oh, I do that too’ He said while fumbling with his safety belt. He introduced himself as John and she told him he could call her Annie like all her friends do.

She couldn’t understand why she felt comfortable with John the first time. It usually takes time for her to adjust to new people; maybe it was because he was handsome in a different kind of way. She knew many heavily built and handsome men including Dave, but his was different, he looked mysteriously charming. She blushed.

John was used to getting so much attention from women, but Annie was pretty beyond words, he could see her pretty shimmering long legs below the Mini skirt. His stomach fluttered. Strange thing, she didn’t give much attention to him like other women do. He knew at that moment he liked her.



They didn’t utter a word to each other throughout the one hour flight. They both felt the tension between them. This is going to be a fun vacation.


Random White Ramblings

I'm here again, I'm sure you are wondering why the title right? lol...That's something I probably can't answer :) but enjoy...

I live in abundance of grace
Don’t even have to pick up my pace
Coz in God I don't got to earn
But open my heart and willing to learn
I know the world thinks I'm crazy
Even my friends think it’s lazy
I know he’s the God of all history
I don’t care if to them it’s mystery
To love something so amazing
But I’m just gonna kip praising

You see the world promotes self
Whereas my bible tells me itself
I’m righteous not by what I DO
But by the blood that cleaned me full
Why then should I walk in darkness?
When Jesus brought me to awareness
So when people tell me to stop talking
Of why my life is so working
I just wanna scream and tell them
I’m only here because I confessed him

So if you’ve got a problem with me declaring
That christ is the king I confide in
I’m not even gonna judge you or crucify you
I’d rather give you the word to see through
You know life in the kingdom is wisdom
Not a religion with division.
We are all one body in Christ
That’s the only way to unite
So if I’m happy I’m a redeem
That’s coz of a God so supreme.