Love and Relationships: A Ramblers point of view.

If someone wants you, nothing can keep them away.  If they don't want you, nothing can make them stay either.  So stop making excuses for a man/woman and his/her behavior. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.  Trying to change yourselves for a relationship that's not meant to be will only end up hurting you, the truth is never live your life for anyone before you find what makes you truly happy. Slower is better. .

If a relationship ended once because your partner was not treating you as you deserve then “heck no, you can't be in it again." I’m not saying don’t be friends with an ex who didn't treat you well,  because I believe that when you hold resentment towards another person, you are bound to that person by an emotional link that is stronger than steel. Forgiveness is the only way to dissolve that link and get free. I'm a big advocate for forgiveness. All I’m saying is-don't settle for them because of that. If you feel like he/she is stringing you along, then they probably are.  Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things were not better; in the long run the only person you can control in a relationship is you. 

If something bothers you in your relationship, speak up.  As much as you can’t change anyone’s behavior forcefully, always be open in any relationship you find yourself. Always keep in mind that change comes from within and love is all about compromise, but you shouldn’t be the one doing all the bending because compromise is a two-way street. .  Enough of letting a relationship define who you are, but rather you and your partner should give a meaning to the special ties you share. Never ever make the mistake of borrowing or loving someone else's partner because if they cheated with you, they can definitely cheat on you. 

One thing I’ve learnt from experience is that you need time to heal between relationships; there is nothing cute about baggage. Deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship; no one wants to love someone who is still stuck on someone else. Yes, absolutely no one. From my own point of view you should never look for someone to COMPLETE you. Hey before you get me wrong, what I mean is this- relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals and I would rather have someone complementary than supplementary.  But what do I know I’m not a love guru, I’m just another girl sharing her opinion.


2 Thoughts:

Alexa said...

There's always lessons to be learned by each relationship and by each person. All of them serve a purpose. The goal is to recognize your failures, make adjustments in your life to do better and still keep your good qualities in tact. In addition, you have to find a constructive way to get rid of the anger and bitterness of the past. The future doesn't require those traits. I share your point of view. Nice one Dekky.

Dekky said...

Thanks Alexa,

Very true I can safely say that I've become a better person over the years through the few relationships I've had. I've also become very choosy over who I spend my time with.I may eventually run into someone who is worth my time and energy. The point of the matter is, if you're in a similar situation, make adjustments. Find out where u went wrong and change it. By doing so, you'll know what to expect and what not to except from the future. Your happiness starts with YOU! Have a great day :)


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