People come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. When you figure out which it is, you know exactly what to do.

When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed outwardly or inwardly. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally, or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend, and they are. They are there for the reason you need them to be. Then, without any wrong doing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up or out and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and it is now time to move on.

When people come into your life for a SEASON, it is because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn. They may bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season.

LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons; those things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person/people (anyway); and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.

For those who made 2012 worthwhile

So much has happened in 2012 and it’s not over yet. It’s going to be one of those years when I look back 10-20 years from now as a huge turning point in my life.

A while back someone asked me to write about what makes me tick. Intrigued, I pondered how I might answer the question and became completely and totally stumped. I mean, how can one possibly figure out what makes them tick without examining their life from every perspective and without being able to review every memory to ascertain the pivotal moments that molded and shaped their personality, perspective and outlook on life?

Quite the impossible task I concluded.

Most recently, I thought of writing about gratitude.  An easier subject, for sure, but one that has many facets. I became overwhelmed by all the possibilities: should I write about my family and friends, my teachers and professors at school and university, my colleagues? My list could be endless if I considered all the people who have ever touched my life in a positive way!

At that moment, I suddenly realized that it was the people in my life that have made me into the person I am today. What makes me tick is a result of all the experiences and all the lessons I have learned from all the people in my life. And when I say all, I mean all. Not just the ones who interacted with me and created fond memories; all the people I have interacted with, including the frustrating, mean, belligerent, scary, negative, manipulative, soul-crushing and destructive ones.

I need to be grateful for all the people who have touched my life this year.

So why be grateful for those people I don't like and don't care to be around?

The more I think about those people and how they threw roadblocks across my path, made me cry, made me angry, told me I couldn't or wouldn't or shouldn't, the more I realized that I learned to be persistent, defiant, creative, self-confident, courageous, ingenious and rebellious because of their actions. And let's be honest. For this life I am living, where things haven't always gone the way I have planned and where I have faced more than my fair share of challenges, these are the lessons I needed to prepare me to live my life. All these people taught me that I was stronger, more resilient and more capable than I ever imagined.

More elegantly put, in this quote from the movie Mulan, "The flower that blooms in adversity is the most rare and beautiful of all."

It has taken me decades to appreciate just how rare and beautiful I am between all my struggles. It has also taken decades for me to see and appreciate how deep and how wide my inner strength, courage and passion for life are. While I hold out hope that life's challenges will become fewer as I get older, I nevertheless am more confident than ever that I can survive and thrive despite whatever life throws in my direction.

I have all the people who have touched my life to thank for this. I am very grateful and very fortunate indeed. I truly do have so many blessings to count and be thankful for this .There comes a time, when one realizes that one's accomplishments and unique journey through life have been made richer by the presence of those who have touched one's mind, body, or spirit. Now is the time!

This last year of blogging has taught me so much—about myself, about others, about writing, about life—but there are many times when I feel like maybe I’ve said everything I want to say. More often than not I’ll think, “I should blog about that!” only to realize I wrote up that post just last year. After three years it gets hard to keep churning things out, but the reason I put pressure on myself is simply because I need something — something that makes me feel creative, makes me feel wanted, that connects me to people who feel the same way. True, some days I want to delete it, and maybe someday that will happen. But for now, I still kind of like it and am sticking around for a bit.

And to answer the question I get once in a while, yes, I've thought about doing a book. I think I've defined my voice and perhaps even stepped up my game since I will be coming up with one soon. Anyway, this whole long ramble is to sincerely thank you for your support this past year—not just with the blog and with me as a person. I know readers and blogs come and go, and I am truly thankful for those who are with me today. In my blogging world, every word counts. Every tear, laugh, and bit of wisdom you share makes me a better human being.

Thank you for just being there. (Because often it’s the just being there that matters the most.). God bless you and I love you so much!!

That’s as mushy as I get. Now it’s your turn.

Spoken Words Poetry: Twenty Twelve Twenty Thirteen

Twenty Twelve will soon be history
It was themed our year of victory
Now let’s see behind the scene of yesterday
Who was in control of our everyday?
Did you make those same resolutions?
Only to live in their full delusions
Or did you surrender your plans to Jesus
Knowing he is greater than a genius
You might think your year was a success
But success without Christ is nothing but distress
You should ask yourself this question
Was your year a mere obsession?
Or was it full of Fulfilments
Coupled with God given achievements
Was your life a testimony
Or was it just a phony
Look back at all your  ups and downs
Was God truly your solid ground
As we take a step into a new year
Let’s serve the lord with all good cheer

Twenty Thirteen will come in like an eagle
Are you prepared to let go of your ego
And all the things that pulled you off your purpose
Given Christ the room to help you focus
Not only on what  you think is important
But on what the bible says in accordant
Twenty thirteen  is a year to get on our knees
But not like the Pharisees
Who prays out in the public
So people might think he is angelic
Let’s try not to be hypocrites
But rather be God’s associate
And walk with all dignity
Standing in Christ ‘The Infinity’
“The way” , “The Truth” and “The Life”
Believe me he has taking off your strife
So don’t be deceived by the father of all lies
Who has come to steal your eternal prize
Now is the time to decide and set aside
All your pride and simply be his bride

Video: I will upload the video soon :)

We Live in a World

We live in a world
where children die young and wicked lives long
where good runs dry and mothers often cry
We live in a world
where masses have no say but leaders never sway
where justice never reigns but violence always rains
We live in a world
where love is long lost and hate spreads like dust
where men beat their wives and mercy never thrive
We live in a world
where people know there is God but choose to ignore
where it’s not OK to pray but absolutely right to be gay
We live in a world
where boys hold war guns and shoot till the day dawns
where it is OK to fight and kill for your right
We live in a world
where women get stripped only just to be tipped
where young girls get sold only just to the old
We live in a world
where white means black and the sun is dark
where people no longer feel and wounds no longer heal
We live in a world
where revenge is the tool and peace is just for a fool
where brother means foe and families are only for show 

We need a world
where God is a necessity and not just a commodity
where we all need to take a stand and hold unto God's hand
We need a world
where we can all decide and not take sides
where we make a difference and all stay friends
We need a world
where fathers learn to trust and not just to hurt
where boys actually grow with no bomb to and fro
We need a world
where mothers learn to care and try not to err
where girls learn to read and not disagree
We need a world
where nations are fertile and people tend to smile
where hearts are filled with joy and sorrow destroyed
We need a world
where the youths can unite with futures so bright
where the old can relax with no news of attacks
We need a world
where peace is born and tears are undone
where we can all rely and dream of blue skies
We need a world
where it all makes sense to stop the pretense
where we teach our soul to live as a whole.